Monday, June 21, 2010

沒那麼簡單

黃小琥 沒那麼簡單

詞:姚若龍 曲:蕭煌奇

沒那麼簡單 就能找到 聊得來的伴
尤其是在 看過了那麼多的背叛
總是不安 只好強悍
誰謀殺了 我的浪漫

#2沒那麼簡單 就能去愛 別的全不看
變得實際 也許好也許壞各一半
不愛孤單 一久也習慣
不用擔心誰 也不用被誰管

感覺快樂就忙東忙西
感覺累了就放空自己
別人說的話 隨便聽一聽 自己作決定
不想擁有太多情緒
一杯紅酒配電影
在周末晚上 關上了手機 舒服窩在沙發裡

#3相愛沒有那麼容易 每個人有他的脾氣
過了愛作夢的年紀 轟轟烈烈不如平靜
幸福沒有那麼容易 才會特別讓人著迷
什麼都不懂的年紀
曾經最掏心 所以最開心 曾經


想念最傷心 但卻最動心 的記憶

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvoVAZ0EE0M&feature=related


Tuesday, October 13, 2009

notes from Warren Buffett

巴菲特給時下年輕人的建議是:

遠離信用卡的物慾, 多投資自己並且牢記:

1)錢是人創造出來的,但是錢不會創造人。

2)過你自己想過的簡單生活吧 !

3)別人說的話聽聽可以,但不一定要照做,做你自己覺得很棒的事。

4)別走入名牌的迷思,穿你覺得舒服的服飾即可。

5)與其把錢花在不必要的事情上,倒不如把錢花在真正需要的地方。

6)總而言之,這是你的人生,幹嘛讓其他人來指揮你的人生呢?

Sunday, October 11, 2009

价格与价值:世界上最珍贵的东西是免费的


除了股票市场里,在人类社会的各个方面,我们也都能看到价格与价值的不对称。奇怪的是,价值越高的东西,往往价格越低。

一颗几十克拉的钻石,价格可能上百万、千万 。但是,除了作为装饰外,它提供了什么价值?

若把这颗大钻石敲碎,其身价可能暴跌几十倍。然而,这些细碎的钻石,却可做成切割刀、钻探头、研磨工具。。。等等,具有很广的工业用途。

石油,当今人类活动最主要的能量来源,一公升才几块钱。

干净的水,输送到每家每户中,才几毛钱每立方米。

阳光,空气,。。。那些最有价值、最珍贵的东西,都是免费的

世界上最珍贵的东西是免费的

阳光,是免费的。芸芸众生,没有谁离开阳光活得下去,然而,从小到大可曾有谁为自己享受的阳光付过一分钱?

空气,是免费的。一个人只要活着,就需要源源不断的空气。可从古到今,又有谁为这须臾不可缺少的东西埋单?无论是凡夫走卒,还是明星政要,他们一样自由呼吸着充盈天地间的空气。

亲情,是免费的。每一个婴儿来到世上,都受到了父母无微不至的呵护,那是一份深入血脉不求回报的疼爱。可从没有哪一个父母会对自己的孩子说:“你给我钱我才疼你。”父母的这份爱,不因为孩子的成长而贬值,更不会因为父母的衰老而削弱,只要父母活着,这份爱始终如一。

友情,是免费的。寂寞时默默的陪伴着你的那个人,摔倒时向你伸出手臂的那个人,伤心时将你揽在怀里的那个人,可曾将他(她)的付出折合成现金,然后要你还钱?

爱情,是免费的。那份不由自主的倾慕,那份无法遏制的思念,那份风雨同舟的深情,那份相濡以沫的挚爱,正是生命最深切的慰籍与最坚实的依靠。而这一切,都是免费的,更是金钱买不来的。

目标,是免费的。无论是锦衣玉食的王子,还是衣不蔽体的流浪儿,只要你愿意,就能为自己的人生确立一个目标。这个目标可以伟大也可以平凡,既可以辉煌也可以朴素,只要你愿意,你就能拥有。

信念,是免费的。每一个生存者,都抱有一份自我的信念。信念是在成长的过程中建立起来的一种斗志,遇到困难用它来克服,无论是小时候,还是长大的你,你对待事物的态度就是靠它来维护的。只要你想到了,就会拥有它的光辉!


还有很多,比如希望、意愿、意志、梦想。所有的这一切,都是免费的。只要你想要,你就能得到。还有大自然给予的春风细雨,还有皎洁的月光,还有灿烂的星辉……世间多少滋润心田的美好事物,都是免费的……

再不要对着苍天唉声叹气:苍天是公平的,更是慷慨的:苍天已经把最珍贵的一切,免费的馈赠给了每一个人。 但是,因为我们时刻拥有而不知道怎么去珍惜,并且往往容易得到的就不懂得珍惜,到失去的时候才后悔。所以,让我们珍惜这一切都是免费的东西吧。

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Buddhism

By Tong Wei

Nowadays, Buddhism is recognized as a religion but there are also people who categorise it as a philosophy an art of living. However, this is not of major concern as the most important thing to understand is that the Buddha taught us the ultimate truth about suffering and the way to cessation of suffering. Ultimate truth does not need a label, and it belongs to all beings. Allow me to share a few important characteristics about Buddhism with you.

1. The objective of practicing Buddhism: To understand and cease suffering
The Way shown by the Buddha is simple, direct and practical. He disapproves mythical teachings and rejects superstition. From the first day he preached the Dhamma, his teachings revolve around the Four Noble Truths: the truth of suffering (dukkha), the origin of suffering (samudaya), cessation of suffering (nirodha) and the path towards cessation of suffering (magga). The ultimate goal is to eliminate all negative qualities in the mind, namely greed, hatred and ignorance, to attain Nibbana.

2. Rationality
Rationality is the opposite of superstitious. The Buddha respects the wisdom of his students and have not reprimanded or condemned them for not believing in his teachings. He dispels blind faith and encouraged his followers to discuss, debate and express doubts about his teachings if they disagree or do not understand, and to test it out by putting the teachings into practice before accepting or rejecting them.

3. Self-reliance
The Buddha emphasizes a lot on self reliance. He did not proclaim himself to be the saviour for his followers nor did he say that he is the almighty god. By praying and pleading to the Buddha, one will not be able to overcome his problems. On the other hand, he wants his followers to put in effort and practice the dhamma diligently in order to eliminate suffering and achieve Nibbana like the Buddha did.

4. Practicality
The Buddha did not create any teachings himself. He merely preached to truth of nature that he discovered. Whether the Buddha appeared in this world or not, the truth remains the truth. Like what we mentioned above, the teachings of the Buddha is for us to eliminate greed, hatred and ignorance and achieve cessation of suffering. Therefore, the Buddha teaches only the way to cessation of suffering and is not interested in philosophical or impractical issues which are only to satisfy the curiosity of certain people.

5. Peace
The Buddha is a man of peace. He says, "Hatred can never overcome hatred; it can only be appeased by love. This is an eternal law." The Buddha's compassion was not only towards mankind but encompasses all beings.

There is a stanza that summarises the teachings of the Buddha, "Avoid evil, do good, purify your mind. This is the teaching of all Buddhas". Avoid evil and doing good are universal teachings that can be found in all religion but purifying one's mind is unique of Buddhism. By purifying our mind, we will be able to maintain inner peace even at times of illness, pain and death.

6. Human-centered
"Manussa" is the word for human beings in ancient Indian language. "Manu" is the mind and "sa" means to develop. Therefore "manussa" is a being that is able to develop its mind to the highest state. Among the founders of various religions in the world, the Buddha is among the very few who does not self-proclaim as god or a supernatural being. He is a human being like you and me, but is special as he has eliminated all bad qualities that need to be eliminated and has developed all good qualities that need to be developed. As long as we fellow human beings follow and practise the dhamma, we are able to attain the same achievement as the Buddha did. To be born as a human being is a rare opportunity, more so to have a chance to listen to the Dhamma. Therefore we should treasure this precious opportunity and strive with diligence!

Sunday, December 9, 2007

sharing

一名署名約翰衛斯理的人寫了這樣一個故事。

一對夫婦在婚後十一年生了一個男孩,夫妻恩愛,男孩自然是二人的寶。
男孩兩歲的某一天,丈夫在出門上班之際,看到桌上有一藥瓶打開了,不過因為趕時間,
他只揚聲妻子把藥瓶收好,然後就關上門上班去。妻子在廚房忙得團團轉,就忘了丈夫的叮囑。男孩拿藥瓶,覺得好奇、又被藥水的顏色所吸引,於是一飲而盡。
藥水成份厲害,即使成人服用也只能用少量。男孩 OD(Overdose 服藥過量),被送到醫院後,返魂乏術。妻子被事實嚇呆了,不知如何面對丈夫。緊張的父親趕到醫院,得知噩耗非常傷心,看兒子的屍體,望了妻子一眼,然後說了四個字。
作者叫讀者猜,這丈夫說了四個甚麼字?


答案是:「I love you, darling! 」


作者說:這反應是 Proactive 的(即反過來控制局面,而不被局面控制)。
作者亦盛讚這丈夫是人類關係的天才,因為兒子的死已成事實,再吵再罵也不會改變事實,
只惹來更多的傷心,而且不只自己失去兒子,妻子也失去兒子。
這故事,主旨是彰顯人類選擇的自我層次 , 同一件不幸事你可以怨天尤人,痛罵社會,甚至自責無窮,但事情卻不因這些而改變,這一切只改變了你和日後的生活,負著疤痕的活下去。
反之,放下怨恨和懼怕,放下過去,勇敢的活下去,事情的境況原來並不如想像中壞,這就是作者所說的 Proactive Behavior ,也就是我們所說的由人轉境 ,而不是被外界事物牽走 。

很簡短的故事 ,但是, 有多少人能做到呢?[ " I love you, darling! " ],多麼簡單的一句話, 但要有多久的修練, 多大的包容,多深的人生智慧 ,才能在那種時刻說出如此令人動容的一句話, 每個人都有不想讓人所知的不幸事,自己選擇了什麼方式去面對, 又怎麼去面對未來以及週邊的人事物,
祝福朋友你永遠順心喜樂 !